Does anybody go on tea dates?
Is it actually 'a thing' - or is it just something I did with my friends for so long that I came to assume that everyone else did it, too?
Once upon a time, a couple of friends and I would have regular tea dates at each other's houses. We'd plan on an afternoon when we were all free, buy at least three packets of milk, treats, make thermos flasks full of tea, and occasionally even make the treats ourselves. And then we'd sit down together...and we'd just talk. We'd talk for hours about life and its challenges; and then we'd pray for each other before parting ways.
My sister and I recently created our own version of a 'tea date' by treating ourselves afternoon tea at Villa Rosa Kempinski, Nairobi a few weeks ago.
Turning 30 felt like reaching an incredible milestone. 21 felt good, 25 was exciting, but 30 felt different, somehow... and bigger!
Despite struggling and being unsure of myself throughout my 20s, I suddenly felt like everything started falling into place when I turned 30; and it just gets better each and every day. 😊
Another advantage of getting to 30 is realizing how much I've learnt over the last three decades. I've learnt what to let go of and what to hold on to; what not to care about so much and what to value more; and what to spend less time thinking about as well as what to spend more time working on - and so much more.
WHY FEELING THE HEAT IS NECESSARY
This past Sunday, our senior pastor preached a sermon in church about Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego - three men in the Bible who had unbeatable faith.
It's a popular story among the Christian community. In fact, most Christians first heard the story about these men in Sunday school. We were told of how they were commanded to bow down to an idol made by King Nebuchadnezzar - the Babylonian king at that time - but refused to do so because in doing so they would be disobeying God; and how they were, in turn, thrown into a fiery furnace for their disobedience - but didn't burn! What's more, when the king looked into the furnace he saw four men in it - not three!
SHIFTING MY FOCUS (VI): SIMPLICITY
They say a picture is worth 1,000 words. Well, I'm not sure about that word count, but I'd certainly say that each picture has a story to tell...
This week on the blog I'm telling short stories of things that I'm grateful for through pictures that I've taken in the last couple of months. One of my keywords for 2019 is simplicity. And although we are mostly used to giving thanks for the big things that happen in our lives, I'm learning that there are many little, simple things to give thanks for on a daily basis as well.
With that said, here are some of the things I've come to appreciate in the first quarter of the year...
It's been about three months since I started feeling like a different person.
I feel lighter, like a huge weight that I've been carrying for way too long has been lifted off my shoulders. I feel free and I feel bold, as if I suddenly have what it takes to be whatever I want to be, and to do whatever I want to do.
What, you might ask, changed in the last few months?
RELOCATING: I'M COMING HOME
After a life-changing three years of living and studying abroad, the big question remained: Should I stay or should I go?🤔
My time in Europe & Asia has been extremely enjoyable, and I couldn't be more grateful to God for all the wonderful experiences I've had here. And although I initially wanted to settle down in The Netherlands after completing my studies, I eventually decided that the better option for me at this point in time is to go back home.
I recently heard Lupita Nyong'o promising to partner with more female photographers in 2019.
It was on the evening of the 76th Annual Golden Globe Awards event late last year, and Instagram had partnered with her to capture the event through her eyes. As you can imagine, hearing her say this made me really happy - not only because of my love for photography, but also because it's always nice to hear a woman choosing to support other women.
Unfortunately, women supporting other women is rarely the case - especially in the workplace.
Having recently graduated from University, I'm currently mentally preparing myself to go back into the workplace, and I find that out of all the concerns I have about finding a job, the thought of working alongside other women is the one that troubles me the most...
As Christmas celebrations are coming to an end, and the beginning of a new year is fast approaching, it always feels like the right time to look back on the last twelve months and see what they've taught me...
Now, I'm not really one for New Year's resolutions - I believe that any time is the right time to make life-changing decisions. However, I also believe that a new year represents a new beginning in a way. It's a great opportunity to look back and see what you can learn from your past mistakes, as well as to look forward and figure out how to approach the next year.
WAIT UNTIL YOU READ THIS...
It's been months since I moved out of my old residence and started looking for a new place to live in.
But it feels like it's been much longer than that.
It's one of the most frustrating things I've ever had to do in my life; and it can be quite discouraging, especially when it looks like you might have gotten a break - but then everything suddenly falls through.
I've spoken to friends about it, received a lot of assurance from them that it's normal for it to take this long, as well as helpful tips on how to improve my chances of finding something. But the search is still taking much longer than I'd like it to. 😣
It's through this experience that I've discovered how much I dislike waiting, and how impatient I can get when I have to wait.
Three years have come and gone, and suddenly my time at Uni. has come to an end. 👩🏽🎓
I realize now that I'm fortunate enough to have been among those who enjoyed their University experience - seeing as there are so many who haven't...
Some of the reasons why I enjoyed my Uni. experience so much are: the beautiful city where my Uni. is located, the wonderful learning environment at my school, the awesome people I met there, and most importantly - the degree I chose to study at University.