Having become so comfortable standing alone and generally being alone, I learnt a bit late that being a woman isn't something I can do on my own.
Every part of my journey included one group of women or another, and sometimes I was lucky enough to experience more than one part of my journey with the same group of women. Even when I look through this blog, I see traces of the women in my life - from the pictures and videos they took of me to the meals they treated me to, and shared with me. 😊 My mind is filled with the lessons I have learnt through my friendships and relationships with these women.
Honestly speaking, now that I've realized this, I don't know how any woman can survive without having other women - be it mothers, aunties, sisters, cousins or girlfriends - in her life!
"I'm so glad that I'm friends with women of substance."
This semester I took a class called 'The F Word', and it turned out to be a good decision.
First off, 'The F word' is not the word you're thinking it is. At least not in this case. Lol. The 'F' actually stands for Feminism, a movement that has been associated with a lot of negative things in the past, hence the decision to call the class 'The F Word'. But as I have learnt over the past few weeks, those things don't define what feminists truly stand for.
Some people think that feminists hate men, and that feminist women think that they don't need men, but that's not true; true feminist women are actually less hostile towards men than other women are, and feminists actually have healthier and more stable romantic relationships 💑 - at least according to studies.
By definition, a feminist is a person who believes that women and men are equal, and that they should be treated equally, which means that men can be feminists, too!
One of the things that has - surprisingly - happened since I starting blogging is that it has made me more interested in the lives of the women around me. I have also become excited about the prospect of meeting more women, learning more about them and from them, and celebrating how similar we all are to each other, as well as how different we all are from each other.
However, there are two things that we do that really get to me:
1. Comparing ourselves to men (saying things like, "Anything a man can do a woman can do better - or just as well"), and
2. Comparing ourselves to each other.