My brother is the biggest advocate for relationships that I know.
He's always going on about all the different things he's learnt through the relationships he's been in - both about himself and about life in general. He's constantly advising me to get into a relationship, because he believes that that's the best way for me to learn things about myself that I wouldn't learn otherwise. You see, according to him, being in a relationship is like having a second set of eyes, eyes that see you differently from the way you see yourself; and notice different things about you from the things you know notice about yourself.
I understand where he's coming from, and I believe that what he's saying is true. However, after a recent conversation with my sister, I'm not entirely convinced that being in a relationship is the only way to learn and grow...
My sister and I were also talking about relationships, and it was then that I mentioned to her what my brother had told me. Truth be told, his words had stayed with me and it had been worrying me a lot that I might not be growing both spiritually and mentally because I wasn't in a relationship. I was eager to hear a second opinion on the matter, hence why I told my sister about it.
Afterwards, we talked about life in Uni., and I updated her on my experience so far of having a roommate. It's the first time I've had to share a room with someone other than one of my siblings, and the experience has been stretching me in many different ways. It was then that she told me that she didn't think I needed to be in a relationship to grow because I was learning just as much from sharing a living space with someone else! My roommate is my second set of eyes, the eyes that see me differently from the way I see myself and notice different things about me from the things I notice about myself!
Don't get me wrong; I don't believe that living with someone else is the same thing as being in a relationship. However, I do believe that both situations can teach you some of the same principles. Principles like compromise, picking your battles, and letting go of the need to always be right - just to name a few.
I found it comforting when I realized that, even though I'm not in a serious romantic relationship yet, God has still found a way to help me grow and to prepare me for my future relationship. Entering into something as serious as a relationship for the sole purpose of growing is never a good idea; neither is it something that I even want to consider. And thankfully, I don't have to. Because having a relationship with God already ensures that no matter what situation I'm in, I'm constantly learning and growing both spiritually and mentally, and therefore, I have nothing to worry about.
God might challenge you to grow through a relationship - like he did for my brother; or through sharing a room with someone else - like He's doing for me; or in a completely different way. He doesn't have just one way of doing it. That's one of the wonderful things about Him. 😊
In light of that, how do you think God has challenged or is challenging you to grow? Feel free to share in the comment section below. 😊
I find it easier and more effective to write down how I feel rather than to say it.
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