Another school year just came to an end, and I'm currently in the process of saying goodbye to a few people who I might never see again. These are people I've seen day in and day out for months - some even years - yet it's only now that I have to say goodbye to them that I'm wondering whether I took full advantage of my time with them while I had the chance...
There's a quote that says,
"We don't appreciate what we have until it's gone. " - Boris Yeltsin.
In this case, I couldn't agree more. It's easy to take people and things for granted until they aren't there anymore. Saying goodbye has made me realize the importance of appreciating people while I have them in my life.
However, it took me a while to realize this...
I learnt how to say goodbye at a young age; this is when my dislike for goodbyes was also born. My family was separated when I was about eight years old; and since then, I've found it hard to deal with anybody leaving. With time, I came up with ways to make saying goodbye easier; I tried pretending it wasn't happening - that didn't work out so well; then I tried avoiding the emotional goodbye sessions held in the living room, in the car park or at the airport before someone left, but that didn't prove to be successful either.
After many failed attempts at avoiding goodbyes altogether, it dawned on me that my focus was on the wrong thing: it shouldn't be on the "Goodbye" itself, but rather on the time spent with a person before I had to say goodbye to them. If I made the most of the time I had with others, saying goodbye to them when they were leaving became much easier!
In fact, knowing that I might have to say goodbye to somebody someday should make me value their presence more.
With that said, I'm hoping to take a different approach to my relationships as well as my goodbyes from now on. Not only do I hope to invest more in my relationships with people, but I'm also hoping to change the way I look at goodbyes - they don't have to be endings, but can be beautiful beginnings of something better. 😊
I find it easier and more effective to write down how I feel rather than to say it.
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